Probably the number one rule for anyone in a casual relationship, or thinking about entering one, is to be honest with the other person. The lines of what’s casual and what’s not are blurry and many people in casual relationships want more than that. It might seem brutal, but it’s vital that you make sure you are both on the same page and you both understand what this is, and what it isn’t. Do this right from the beginning, don’t allow for any confusion or misunderstandings. That way, if casual isn’t what the other person really wants you’re giving them an escape route, and if it is, you know you’re both happy.

Rule #2 Have Some Respect

If you’ve established from the get-go that this relationship is casual, you are both free to see other people. Unless you’re in a hybrid casual-but-exclusive deal, which is often more of a ‘taking it slow’ phase before you take the leap into a relationship, it’s understood that there will be others. But just because you both know your hook-up is also hooking up with other people, doesn’t mean it’s ok to talk about what you do together all about town. Respect is important, even when it’s casual, so stay classy and keep what happens between the two of you between the two of you. Similarly, don’t ask your date about where they’ve been and who with, respect their privacy.

Rule #3 Set Your Own Rules

For some people casual dating means casual sex and not much else. If you’re both happy with this then that’s fine, but make sure neither of you has other ideas of what a casual relationship looks like. For some people, casual means lots of hot sex, but it also means going to a movie or dinner now and then. There aren’t any hard and fast rules about this, it’s down to whatever you are both comfortable with. The trick is to set the rules between you so you can both enjoy what’s going on. In the same way, you might want to decide whether this is going to be random hook-ups whenever you feel like it, or if you’re going to have a routine.

Rule #4 Beware of Feelings

Sometimes casual dating can turn into something more, but usually it is exactly what it says it is. For this reason, if you think you’re starting to develop feelings for your casual hook-up, it could be time to take a step back. If you both established from the start what this relationship is and your date is still sticking to the rules you set, developing feelings for them will most likely mean you are the one at risk of getting in over your head. Don’t allow yourself to become dependent, or you’ll soon find your hook-up has all the power. If emotions rear their ugly head, it could be time to call time on the arrangement.

Rule #5 Be Practical

This last one might seem like it’s unimportant, but in fact it’s one of the most important rules to implement in a casual relationship. Be practical. Pay for everything separately, split the bill, don’t give gifts and don’t receive gifts, don’t introduce your date to your friends, don’t call them outside of the boundaries of the relationship, and don’t do anything with them that feels like it’s crossing a line into anything more than casual. Keep set lines where they are and keep the rules of the game crystal clear. By being practical about what this is, you avoid any potential confusion, on both sides.

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It’s where more Australian singles and swinging couples find casual sexual encounters. Plus there’s live video webcam chat, event listings, sex and relationship blog or articles, community listings and much more!

At Adult Match Maker you can try before you buy, meaning you can browse sexy profiles before even signing up. One of the things you’ll notice when looking at the thousands of members in your area is that there is a huge variety of people to choose from.

Even though this site has over 2.5 million of member it’s still very easy to find exactly what you’re looking for. The search engine on Adult Match Maker makes it easy to search for other like-minded members that match your wants and needs. The search options the site offers include:

• Relationship status
• Age
• Gender: including male, female, transgender or other
• Location
• Sexual Preference
• Appearance including: Body type (including endowment length and bra size), hair colour, piercings ect
• Lifestyle: Drinking, Smoking, Safe Sex
• Star Sign
• Personality type
• Ethnicity
• Whether or not they have children
• Work & education
• Fetishes/ interests

Once you’ve chosen your search options you’ll be able to view the photo thumbnails and basic details of the profiles that match your search criteria. The site has over 2.5 million registered members in Australia and New Zealand with more and more members signing up each day so you’re bound to find more than just a few matches.

Once you’ve seen all the site has to offer you can make your own profile and dive into the world of online adult dating.

There are a few different ways to meet members on the site:

• You can flirt with members that interest you by sending them winks which are available to both paying and non paying members. Winks are also a great way to break the ice, especially if you’re not sure how to open up a conversation with another member.
• If you’re a paying member you can send private messages to members that interest you.
• You can enter the active live webcam chat room where you can chat to other members and view them on the optional webcam,
• You can check out the events and community sections and see what sexual encounters and events Adult Match Maker has on offer.

It’s free to join Adult Match Maker and unlike most other dating sites the free membership is not time restricted. With the free membership you are able to view other member’s profiles, send winks and enter the social chat room between 4-7pm. The free membership is a nice way to check out what the site has to offer before you decide to go onto a paid subscription. The paid membership gives you access to some of the more advanced features such as sending messages to other members and unlimited access to the chat rooms. You can check out all the different membership options below.

The Different Adult Match Maker Memberships Available

There are benefits of signing up as a FREE member at Adult Match Maker however, if you want to get the most out of the site you may want to become a full member. This way you will have access to everything the site has on offer. There are three different levels of membership to choose from:

SILVER

• Send 4 messages a day
• THIRD in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 8 winks per day
• 2 private galleries

GOLD

• Send 12 messages a day
• SECOND in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 12 winks per day
• 3 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

PLATINUM

• Send 25 messages a day
• FIRST in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 25 winks per day
• 5 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

You can also purchase ‘postage paid’ which increases your chances of connecting with other members by allowing members to contact you for free.

Postage Paid can be purchased on its own or with one of the above memberships.

If you like the sound of Adult Match Maker and want to check it out or even join you can do so here.

If you’re still not convinced and want to know more read on.

Why is Adult Match Maker Australia’s largest Adult Dating Site?

With technology advancing every day and people’s lives getting busier people are now looking to the internet to find love, sex or casual dating. It is now completely socially acceptable to meet people online and also more convenient. Members also have the luxury of being able to search for exactly what they want and get a feel of the person before even meeting up with them. Something that you can’t necessarily do with someone you’ve met at the local pub.

Due to this growing trend many dating sites that cover both casual sex and serious dating have started to pop up all over the internet. This can make it increasingly difficult to separate the great from the bad; however Adult Match Maker definitely falls into the ‘great’ column and continues to be the most popular casual dating site in Australia year after year.

After reviewing the site, some of the reasons we believe Adult Match Maker has always come out on top include:

• The free trial membership allows you to try before you buy.
• Australian owned and operated and it follows the Australian legislation rules and operates with integrity.
• There is a range of membership options ranging from very cheap to a bit more pricey depending on what kind of features you want access to.
• There is a range of payment options: Credit card, postage paid, Bpay and cheque
• The extensive search options allow you to find members that are going to appeal to each individual, live in the same area and have common interests.
• The site itself is extremely user friendly and easy to navigate.
• They have great customer support staff who are extremely efficient and respond to requests within 1-24 hours.
• There is a great community and events section so you can mingle with other members.
• Without a doubt AMM has Australia’s largest swingers community, so if you are a couple looking to spice up your sex life, AMM, should be your first port of call.
• There’s a blog on the site that covers a range of topics to do with sex and dating. Members are also able to interact and share their opinions on each article.
• The site is always busy with a minimum of 60,000 people logging on each day.
• It has over 2.5 million members so you’re bound to find multiple people to play or meet up with who match your interests.
• You have the option to make your photos public or private so you can choose who has access to them.
• You don’t have to provide your real name when you’re signing up so you can keep your privacy.
• The site allows ‘R’ rated photos on the site which means you can get up close and personal with members before even meeting up with them.
• Members have the option to verify their profiles so you know that the person you are talking to is genuine.
• They are committed to finding and banning any fake accounts so they can ensure everyone has a fun and genuine experience on the site.

Overall, if you’re looking to find something a little bit more exciting than just you’re average coffee date, through a site that is easy and safe to use then Adult Match Maker is definitely for you.

Testimonials From Members of Adult Match Maker

 Additional Facts/ Information About Adult Match Maker

• The site has been running since 2004
• It has members in both Australia and New Zealand however; it has a larger Australian membership base.
• There is over 2.5 million members
• Unlike most other dating sites where you have to create a one person profile, you have the option to create a single, couple or group profile.
• The chat room has the option to use your webcam so you can see other members live while you’re chatting with them.
• There are three different levels of membership, Silver, Gold & Platinum + Postage Paid.
• Adult Match Maker is open to people of all genders and sexual orientation. In fact they recently created a sex survey with 30 different gender options which has been highly publicised in the media (link)

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On Gay Match Maker you will find over 300,000 Australian gay men who love men, looking for casual sex and group sex hookups. If happen to be over the hook up apps and casual sex this site is still perfect for you because over 50% of the members are looking for life partners and love.

As you may be well aware the Gay community is a small one and it’s not uncommon to run into and even hook up with the same people more than once. While it can be nice to run into the same people over and over you may be on the hunt for new men to hook up with or even start a relationship with. Enter Gay Match Maker.

Gay Match Maker is one of the largest dating sites in Australia which means you will have a broad range of people to choose from and you’re bound to find someone who has similar interests to you and fits your criteria. You can narrow down your search to find exactly what you want. The search options include:

• Age
• Relationship Status
• Gender: including male, female, transgender or other
• What kind of relationship/ encounter you’re looking for
• Versatility eg. Top, Bottom, versatile
• Location
• Appearance including: Body type (including endowment length and girth), body hair, piercings ect
• Lifestyle: Drinking, Smoking, Safe Sex
• Ethnicity
• Whether or not they have children
• Work & education
• Fetishes/ interests

The site allows people from anywhere in Australia and New Zealand to join so not only will you be able to find people in your area but you can also get up to a bit of fun with members in other cities if you happen to be travelling to around Australia and New Zealand.

The site is free to join, on a free membership you can view other member’s profiles, send winks and use the social chat room between 4pm-7pm which, includes the option for live webcam. You can also  upgrade to a paid membership which will give you access to even more awesome features and most importantly will allow you to message members you’re interested in. Scroll down to see the full breakdown of each membership type.

There is also a community and events section on the site where you can find events in your area and get involved in meet ups with other members.

So whether you’re looking for a few one night stands, a casual or serious relationship then you’re bound to find it on gay Match Maker.

Gay Matchmaker Membership Breakdown

If you want to get the most out of your Gay Match Maker profile you may want to become a paying member. This way you will have access to everything the site has on offer. There are three different levels of membership to choose from:

Silver

• Send 4 messages a day
• THIRD in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 8 winks per day
• 2 private galleries

Gold

• Send 12 messages a day
• SECOND in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 12 winks per day
• 3 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

Platinum

• Send 25 messages a day
• FIRST in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 25 winks per day
• 5 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

You can also purchase ‘postage paid’ which increases your chances of connecting with other members by allowing members to contact you for free.

Postage Paid can be purchased on its own or with one of the above memberships.

Testimonials From Members Of Gay Match Maker

Very Impressed – 31, Male

I only joined Gay Match Maker about a week ago but didn’t expect much; I’ve always thought of online dating sites as a load of bullshit. After only this short time I’m very impressed! At first I was only looking for a hook-up (kind of my only option don’t know any gay people at all) and had one in only a couple of days, and started chatting to heaps of great people. Never thought it would turn out to be the great social forum that it is and I’m hoping to keep meeting new people and extending my network. My new favourite website!

Very Happy – 58, Male

I am very happy, I have only been on this site for around four weeks and I have chatted to some very nice guys and met one. He was amazing, I’d love to keep meeting people and get a nice lot of gay and bi guys as friends in my life.

Life changing – 27, Male

I joined Gay Match Maker in 2008 and in October of 2008 met the man of my dreams. This relationship has changed my life I have moved overseas to Hong Kong (where we both work) we have a house together a child (a dog actually) and plans to go to Sweden to get married!!

Joining this site change my life and so I thought I would come back just to let other people know that Gay Match Maker isn’t just about hook-ups but meaningful lifelong relationships!

Thank You GMM for giving me so much happiness.

More Facts About Gay Match Maker

• It has been online since 2004
• It’s open to all Gay and Bi men or male couples
• They are 100% committed to only having genuine profiles on the site so it’s a safe and fun environment for everyone.
• Gay Match Maker are proud supporters of marriage equality for all
• They have committed support staff who are there to help with any issue and always reply within 24 hours or less.
• It is owned by the same company that runs Adult Match Maker the biggest adult dating site in Australia.

Gay Match Maker has many of the same features and layout as Adult Match Maker, click here to read more about those features in the Adult Match Maker Review.

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Lesbian Match Maker is a safe online community of like-minded women. With over 100,000 members who love women. It’s easy to connect and hook up with local members who share your values and interests. Lesbian Match Maker is where Aussie lesbians click, connect and find friendships or romance! Plus there’s live video chat, LGBTIQ events calendar, lesbian travel listings and more…

Lesbian Match Maker has an advanced search engine where you can search for women who match your taste and criteria. With over 100,000 members all over Australia and New Zealand you’re bound to have a special connection with at least one woman. The extensive search options include:

• The Type of relationship you’re looking for
• Relationship status
• Sexual preference including: Lesbian, Asexual, Queer, Bisexual, Demisexual, Aromantic, Gay, Bicurious, Pansexual
• Age
• Location
• Appearance
• Lifestyle
• Ethnicity
• Religion
• Star Sign
• Work & Education
• Interests and Fetishes

Lesbian Match Maker is free to join, with the free membership you can send winks to other members, view member’s profiles and enter the social chat room between 4-7pm, with the option to use the live webcam. If you sign up and like what the site has to offer you can upgrade your account with a paid membership. This way you have access to all the other great features on the site which include 24/7 access to the chat rooms and the ability to send messages to other members. For the full membership breakdown scroll down.

So if whether you’re looking to experiment with your sexuality, make new friends, experience casual encounters or meet the love of your life then Lesbian Match Maker is the place for you!

The Different Lesbian Match Maker Memberships Available

Silver

• Send 4 messages a day
• THIRD in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 8 winks per day
• 2 private galleries

Gold

• Send 12 messages a day
• SECOND in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 12 winks per day
• 3 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

Platinum

• Send 25 messages a day
• FIRST in search listing priority
• 24/7 chat room access
• Message and Wink filtering
• 25 winks per day
• 5 private galleries
• Request private chats
• Post community notices

You can also purchase ‘postage paid’ which increases your chances of connecting with other members by allowing members to contact you for free.

Postage Paid can be purchased on its own or with one of the above memberships.

Member Testimonials

Thank you Lesbian Match Maker – 32, Female

I joined this great site by an unforeseen occurrence and I have made invaluable friends.Once again, Thank you very much to everyone involved with Lesbian Match Maker.

All It Took Was a Wink – 28, Female

I signed up onto this wonderful site at the start of the year.I had my heart shattered and was looking to make friends in a safe way. I had all but given up on love but I had an open mind on friendship. In September I received a wink from a smart funny and caring girl who lives in a different state. We kicked off an amazing friendship we had both had similar experiences and were a sympathetic ear and a caring shoulder to the other. Over time the friendship started to change and evolve into something I never could imagine. We met for the first time at Christmas she was visiting her family in a nearby town. We hung out and our friendship grew and before I knew it I had fallen in love again but only realized it when she returned back to her home state for work. One night we were chatting away and she went quiet when I asked her what was wrong she wouldn’t tell me.  I got on the next plane I could when I arrived we meet up and she ran into my arms. I couldn’t hold it in any longer and told her of my love for her.

Since that day she has been mine and I hers. She is the love of my life, I thank Lesbian Match Maker not just for helping her find me but helping to me to get out of my own way and fall once more.

My Baby Girl – 23, Female

I never thought I would meet someone and fall for them straight away. I was only new to this site and two weeks later I started talking to a girl we really hit it off. 13 days later she came to see me, stayed for 4 days then we started dating we fell in love with each other. Two weeks later I moved to her and we started our lives together and have been together since. She is the most amazing girl I have ever met I love her with all my heart I cannot be more thankful for this site.

More Facts About Lesbian Match Maker

• They are huge supporters of marriage equality for everyone
• They are committed to only have genuine profiles on the site so it’s a safe and fun environment for everyone
• They have committed support staff who are there to help with any issue and always reply within 24 hours or less.
• It is owned by the same company that runs Adult Match Maker the biggest adult dating site in Australia.

Lesbian Match Maker has a lot of the same features as Adult Match Maker, so click here if you want to read the Adult Match Maker review.

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With so many dating websites available to people with a wide range of lifestyles and interests, the opportunities of meeting like- minded people on line are almost endless.  However, the most important thing about on line dating is safety.  The very nature of an on-line identity not just offers you the ability to put yourself out there in order to meet lots of new people but also allows others to hide their true identity. Dating safely is critical to your search for love as well as something a little bit naughtier.

To stay safe you need to consider how to ensure your physical safety, how to insure against identity theft and ensure your financial safety is not compromised.

Physical Safety

You may think that physical safety doesn’t come into the equation when dating safely on line as you are thinking it is all in the cyber world and until you actually decide to meet someone in person it won’t apply.  Actually, from the first words you type into your profile you are identifying yourself and you want to make sure that identity is not going to invite the wrong type of interest.  There are plenty of good people on line but there are also predators.

Choose the right site

Firstly, do your research about the dating sites available to you.  Read reviews.  You want an established, reputable site.   If you choose an Australian site you can look up their ABN number and see how long they have been around.  If they have been operating for a long time you know they must be doing it right.

There are risks of being defrauded by using websites posing as authentic dating sites.  The risks are the potential theft of your money if you do not use a secure link when making payments and having fake profiles where the person you think you have met is actually employed by the site to keep you hanging on and paying money.

Read the fine print.  The website should respect your information with regard to confidentiality and not share your information without your consent.  It should also give information about how it keeps you safe from abuse such as vetting candidates, reviewing web cams, chats and videos, providing tips on how to use the site and providing a contact number if there is abuse.  What are the terms of service of the website e.g. does it allow explicit content?

Does the website suit the type of person you are and does it feature the type of people you are interested in?

 Your profile

Do your research about writing a good profile.  Use your search engine to look up articles about how you should write your profile, what to put in it and what to leave out.  Most dating sites will have tips about how to write a good profile.

Safety tips here are:

Use a new photo of yourself for your profile.  Any photos of yourself that may already have been used on line or in any social networking website can be traced back to those sources to get information about you that you may not want to share with strangers.  Don’t use an old photo no matter how much you admire the way you looked.

Either use only your first name or create a screen name just for dating sites. Don’t use your last name as you don’t want to be instantly identifiable.

Consider how you want to project your image on the dating site.  Keep your screen name, description, and photo consistent with what you want to say about yourself.  If you use a provocative name and photo, expect a provocative response.

Don’t lie about your age, your interests, your personality, your likes or your dislikes.

Keep information about where you live or work out of your profile.  This can compromise your safety and allow someone to find you.

Use the dating site’s messaging system.  If you want to make contact via email, get a new email address that you use only for dating websites.  This can be a free email account eg G Mail or Hotmail but don’t include your name in the email address.  Don’t use a social networking account.  Only give a mobile phone number, not work or home number, once you are confident that you want to meet in person.

The Process

It can be extremely flattering to receive lots of interest on a dating website.   Take your time.  Start conversations on line to get to know the people who are interested in you and find out about them.

Check to see if they are on other social networking sites.  Google has an image search to check the profile photos.

Once you have asked all the questions you want to on line and received consistent, logical answers, then move the conversations to the telephone.   Make the calls yourself at a time to suit you.   You can block your caller ID until you are certain that you want them to know your number.   Be wary of anyone who tells you that they can only speak at certain times or who wants to push the relationship very fast.

Ask about previous relationships and why they broke up.  Some people never learn any life lessons from previous break ups and it may be a  glimpse of a future relationship.

Make sure from your phone conversations that you both want the same thing from this relationship.

The first date

Common sense tells you that a public place is the best place to have your first meeting.  A coffee shop is a great place to meet.  You can make the meeting a morning coffee just to see if the person you were expecting really does live up to their profile.  If they don’t look like their photo – what else would they be dishonest about?

If you have a friend to go with you it is even better.  They can observe from a distance but can come to your aid if necessary.

Otherwise let someone know where, when and who you are meeting and arrange for them to call you half an hour into your date to check on your safety.

Don’t depend on your date to drive you to or from the coffee shop and don’t go anywhere else with them on the first date.   There is always time to go on to a lunch next date.

Also don’t leave your food or drink to go to the bathroom.

Ask lots of questions about your date and their lifestyle.  If there are inconsistencies or vague answers – be wary.  If there are any signs of anger, disrespect, controlling or other unwelcome behaviour – make an excuse and leave.  Use your instinct and if you have cause to doubt – leave.

Most dating sites have a feature that allows you to block the person from contacting you if you want communication to stop.

Identity safety

Guard your personal information.  There are  predators out there who want access to your identity and thereafter your bank account.

Be careful of the information  you reveal in email and conversations, even after you meet in person.

Think about the questions you’re answering.  Are those questions fishing for security passwords to your online accounts?

Being online makes you accessible.  Be wary of emails claiming to be from online dating sites encouraging you to divulge personal information.

Be careful when accessing your account in a public place or on a shared computer so that others can’t view or record your password or personal information.

Update the security software on your computer.

Don’t open email attachments from someone you have only just met.

Do not share pictures or information about yourself, your family or friends that give someone any sort of hold over you.   Keep your private life private until you know someone really well and can over time trust them with that information.

Dating Safely Means Financial safety

Unfortunately there are unscrupulous people out there who are only interested in whatever money they can get from you.

Always keep your bank account information private.

Make sure you monitor your online transactions and account balances.

These people might appeal to your better nature to help them out of a sad/disastrous/medical/unfortunate/bad luck situation by sending them money.

Do not send anyone money.   Report anything like this to the website.  It is a scam.   Scammers will try to gain your sympathy by the stories they tell.  Unfortunately these scammers will also manipulate your emotions.   Stop all contact immediately and report the matter to the dating site.

If someone you are in contact with starts declaring their love for you within a very short time of making contact they could be trying to get right into your life, possibly for all the wrong reasons. Use common sense and tell someone you trust to get advice.

If someone offers you money that is also a scam.   The same goes for anyone with a get rich quick scheme.

Some scammers will threaten people with webcam footage or messages that they have managed to get out of users online so be very wary of what you say and show online.

Don’t assume scammers are illiterate foreigners you and others will see through in an instant. They practice at being needy and appealing to someone’s emotions and will tell people what they want to hear.  If you suspect that someone you’re talking to may be a scammer, stop your communications and immediately report them to the dating site.

Have any other pointers about dating safely? Please share in the comments below.

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Follow these tips and increase your prospects with the ladies.

1. Your appearance

Here the rules are pretty much common sense.  The girls will always go for a guy who is good looking and if you are good looking then you are more likely to get laid.  However, as not everyone is genetically blessed, at the very least, be clean and presentable.  That includes smelling good.  Bad breath – either alcohol breath or smoker’s breath are big turn offs as is body odour.   Make an effort with your clothes, shoes and personal grooming.   Women pay attention to the clothes you wear and even the shoes you have on so always dress well.   Make sure that your clothes are clean, ironed and fit you well and your shoes are nice.  You want a woman to like everything about you.

2. Your manner

Women pay close attention to your body language and your mannerisms, how you interact and talk to people.

Be yourself and not only will someone sleep with you, it will probably be someone that likes you and that you like in return.  However, if being yourself means being self-centred and bragging about your own achievements all night you will not be laid.

Tell a woman what it is about her that you like – flattery is always welcome – but keep it genuine as women can tell fake flattery a mile off.

Do not get drunk.   Don’t think that the only way you can approach women is with a few drinks under your belt.    If you approach and talk to women when you have been drinking, firstly you will  smell bad – see tip 1 above, and you will make stupid small talk, slur your words, and not speak clearly and the women will either laugh at you or look down on you – either way they will not want to sleep with you.  So if your goal is to get laid limit your alcohol consumption.

Be chilled. You want to exude an air of being open to possibilities and not to appear desperate.

Be confident.  This is all about first impressions.   If you approach women with a confident manner, in a relaxed, fun and playful mood, they will be more receptive.

Confidence is one of the things that attract women.  Confidence says a lot about a man, who he is and his potential to do well in life.    Women want to be with a man who is strong, mentally and emotionally and who can stand up and face the challenges of life.

Smile

When it comes to meeting women and potentially getting laid, it’s important to be confident and be in a good mood. One of the best ways to do that is to smile a lot.

Don’t make the mistake of putting on an act of being cool and aloof.   If anything, it will just cause you to feel insecure or feel like an outsider.

Smile and feel good about approaching and meeting women.

Keep smiling throughout the night too. Have a good time at the bar or club. When women can see that you’re happy and in a good mood, you’re much more approachable.   At the very least women will feel more comfortable to smile back at you if you make eye contact.

3. Your approach

At bars and clubs you have the opportunity to approach and talk to lots of different women.  Most of the women have made an effort to dress up and look attractive.   Not all the women will be there for a hen’s night.  There will be women there who are looking for a man.

Walk in as if it’s your party, like it’s your sort of scene and as though you fit in perfectly.

Smile, feel good about yourself and allow others to feel good in your presence.    It helps you to get into the right sort of mood and maintain it, rather than feeling overwhelmed by the people in the club who aren’t smiling at you or welcoming you into their groups.

When you’re in a bar or club, don’t worry what others are thinking.  Know that smiling and feeling good about yourself gives you an advantage.  Women will find you more attractive and approachable because you’re confident and in a good mood.

4. Who to approach

Focus on seeing if a girl is continuously looking around the room as if she is also looking for someone to meet.  Look for someone who looks approachable and friendly and if they are on their own you are on your way.   Women who are out at bars and clubs by themselves want to meet a man.   Picking up women is a numbers game and the more women that you approach, the greater the chance that you will seal the deal and get laid.  You may have to approach many women over the course of the evening.

5. The process

When a girl is by herself and you approach her, talk to her as if you are good old friends.

Walk up to her, smile and introduce yourself and ask her name.  Begin talking to her and see if you have common interests so that you can share interesting stories about yourselves.   You should also establish if she has plans for later on in the evening, or if she is meeting her boyfriend/fiancé/friends.

To establish an emotional connection and some rapport, you must find a way to innocently touch her.   Easily done by touching her arm when offering to get her a drink at the bar.

Once you have already begun touching her and having an interesting conversation with her, you should make plans to get her phone number.

You need to escalate the conversation and interaction with her to establish if she is physically attracted to you, is available, and is open to going with you to either her place or your place.    Don’t be afraid to let her know that you would like to spend the night with her.

She should be sending very clear signals that she has the same goal in mind.

If she shows that she’s not that interested or shows discomfort or disinterest just move on to the next girl.

Likewise, if she is drunk don’t go any further – just get her a taxi home.

Obviously if you have only meet one or two women during that evening, your chances of getting laid are less than if you have met 10 or 20 women that night.

If you have introduced yourself to as many women as possible and it has come to the end of the night and the club/bar is closing, you might just happen to be there for one of these women who doesn’t want to go home alone and invite them home with you.

Lots of men get rejected but lots of people are also up for a one-night stand.   Act as if picking up women is a game, and that your mission is to progress to the next level with each woman.   Remember games are fun and the more fun you are having makes you more attractive.

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