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You can make it quite clear in your profile that you are not looking for a committed relationship or life partner but are just looking for someone to have a fun time with – no strings attached.<\/p>\n
Hopefully that will mean that any respondents will be on the same page and will be looking for the same as you.<\/p>\n
What are the hazards?<\/h3>\n
You might start to feel more than physical attraction and start falling for your FB.\u00a0 Once you become emotionally attached, the entire equation changes – especially if your partner doesn\u2019t feel the same emotional attachment.\u00a0 Keep it light hearted and fun. The whole idea of a \u2018friends-with-benefits\u2019 relationship is that it leads to more fun, less heartache and better sex. STDs \u2013 make sure you use protection – every time. There will be a time limit.\u00a0 Eventually either you or your FB will want to find someone to get emotionally involved with.<\/p>\n
Are there rules?<\/h3>\n
If you don\u2019t set some boundaries, it can actually be more unpredictable than a girlfriend\/boyfriend relationship. Here are some guidelines.<\/p>\n
Select the right person.<\/strong><\/p>\nMake sure you keep yourself safe when first meeting potential FBs.\u00a0\u00a0 Find out about them, their real name not just a profile name, where they live and what they do.\u00a0 Then do some research on the web and make sure they are not someone likely to hurt you.\u00a0 Then meet in a public place. \u00a0Don\u2019t drink too much because you don\u2019t want alcohol to affect your judgement and don\u2019t go straight to their apartment\/home.\u00a0 Use your head and if something feels creepy about the potential FB, call it a night and leave.<\/p>\n
Choose a person who you would not consider as a love interest or who you could not see yourself with in a permanent relationship.\u00a0 Either choose someone much older or younger than you or choose someone that has an attribute that you couldn\u2019t live with.<\/p>\n
However, make sure you find your FB interesting if you want the relationship to last more than a couple of nights.<\/p>\n
Obviously, your FB has to be attractive enough to you so you want to bed them but if they are drop dead gorgeous, you may be unable to stop yourself from becoming emotionally affected.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t fall in love.\u00a0 By its very definition, this sort of relationship doesn\u2019t involve love.\u00a0 If you find yourself falling for your FB, that is the end of the FB relationship.\u00a0\u00a0 If your FB was interested in something more they wouldn\u2019t be in this kind of relationship in the first place. \u00a0So don\u2019t fall for your FB and don\u2019t think you can turn your FB into a boyfriend\/girlfriend.<\/p>\n
Use birth control.<\/strong><\/p>\nYou can\u2019t act romantically with a FB. \u00a0Treat them like a friend who happens to have benefits.<\/p>\n
If you introduce your FB to friends\/family –\u00a0 that will confuse both your friends\/family and your FB.\u00a0 The family\/friends will think of you two as a couple and it sets up all sorts of expectations.\u00a0 Better keep your FB relationship to yourself.<\/p>\n
A \u201cfriends with benefits\u201d relationship isn\u2019t exclusive \u2014 you are both free to pursue other relationships.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t mean you can discuss all the other concurrent relationships with your FB. Be mindful and show some tact.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t expect to stay the night and have breakfast together.\u00a0 However, courtesy goes a long way, so, an offer to drive your FB home or at the least arrange a taxi should be the norm.\u00a0 Show some respect and the FB and the relationship will continue happily.<\/p>\n
That respect should be mutual in all dealings, including being truthful and open about sexual health.<\/p>\n
If you are constantly calling your FB to arrange a get together, and the requests are not coming the other way, there might be a problem.\u00a0 The requests to meet up shouldn\u2019t all come from the one person.<\/p>\n
As it is the only thing you have going on between you, make sure the sex is good, and above all else, HAVE FUN!<\/p>\n