New to Swinging?
Couples new to swinging may be
at a loss as to how to fit in, and may be nervous. This is common
and quite natural. It is the responsibility of the hosts to acquaint
you with the structure of the party. They should also introduce you
to others and help you to become involved in conversation.
You and your mate may also wish to discuss in advance your
particular method of swinging; if you will swing alone or together,
open or closed, bisexually or not. These are several variations to
"swinging" and it is important that you and your mate decide, in
advance, those which you like and dislike. You may also have other
personal restrictions you'd like to have honoured. It is important
that you be honest with your mate and make your anxieties known.
Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on them BEFORE
you start "swinging". On your first adventure into the swinging
scene, you may feel uneasy about seeing your mate with someone else.
Everyone has their own reasons for their feelings and all feelings
should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or disillusionment,
discuss your inhibitions with your partner
beforehand.
Stay together until you feel comfortable about being apart, but
don't cling to one another.
If there is general disrobing, slip into a robe, negligee or go nude
yourself. Though you may remain fully clothed, changing into
something more revealing will help you to become involved. It serves
to make you more accessible physically and socially. Do not allow
yourself to harbour feelings of inadequacy, jealousy etc. Do not
berate your partner. Be open with each other with your feelings.
Don't be reluctant to ask questions of other guests. Swingers are
interested in new people and are generally eager to answer questions
about swinging. If there is a hot tub or Jacuzzi, use it. Being nude
in comfortably hot water in close proximity to others is conducive
to making friends and becoming involved.
Leave your inhibitions home. Sexual and social inhibitions will most
likely interfere with your swinging pleasure. You can't expect to
get much out of a swing party if you are unwilling to put much Into
it.
Be responsible, friendly and good-natured. Don't act or pretend just
be yourself. A smile invites social experience. Freshly showered,
perfumed, and neatly dressed people make more contacts. Making
friends is the key to good swinging. You'll get the most out of this
lifestyle if you just use your common sense and remember good
manners.
Do tell people you are new to swinging. Please be assured you will
not be required to run around naked. Making new friends takes
courage and some sort of effort on your part. The important thing to
remember is that the best swinging encounters start with good verbal
communication. Don't be in a hurry. Take the time to find out about
the other couple's desires and interests. And don't be afraid to
explore your fantasies.
