Swing Etiquette
As in any social activity, there are expected rules of conduct in
swinging. Following the rules are an effective way to make yourself
welcome within the swinging community.
The Golden Rule
The Golden Rule in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No".
Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt
or bad feelings. The swing world accepts this rule that everyone has
the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime. It should be done with a
simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is
what causes the problems and the pain.
Be Friendly
Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with
someone, be polite.
Be Courteous
Courteously is how we all want to be treated, with kindness,
thoughfulness, understanding and sensitivity. Courtesy is treating
people the way we want to be treated.
Be Clean and Fresh
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an
unclean body or unfresh breath.
Respect Others
Not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open
for signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and
enjoying themselves. If it is obvious that things are not working
out, remain polite and courteous.
Don't Be Pushy
Remember that freedom of choice is every individual's right in
swinging and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Learn
how to handle a No, thank you graciously. If you are interested in
swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way. Everyone
has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without
explanation. Do not ever forget that.
Do Only What You Consider Fun
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that
you are not interested in. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy
yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you
want.
Practice Safe Sex
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With
the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases the use of
condoms should not offend anybody.
Say Thanks
The social courtesy of a 'Thank-You Note' or phone call to someone
whose hospitality you enjoyed means a lot to most people, and they
will surely remember you when planning their next event.
Respond To Invitations
RSVP means please reply to the invitation. The most frustrating part
of hosting, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond,
Good etiquette and good social courtesy require you respond.
Don't Arrive Empty Handed
When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something
you can bring.
Be Prepared
Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb,
toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc.
Alcohol and Drugs
Most do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. A few
drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your
physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to
you.
Be Good Hosts
When you have people coming to your home, put clean sheets on the
beds; keep plenty of clean washcloths and towels available. Show
your guests through the house.
Responding To Ads
A first letter should include a brief description of yourselves,
where you saw the ad, your ad number and your social and sexual
interests. An SASE should be included with your original reply as
many couples receive a large number of replies which can be costly
to reply to. All replies to an ad should be answered in two weeks
even if it is a No.
Above All Enjoy Yourself
Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore
your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer
with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude. You are there to
have the best of times and to share the uninhibited enjoyment with
those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Don't
hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them
eager to welcome you.
